How to Be Mindful in Love
Becoming mindful can help your romantic relationships grow and evolve. Here are 9 ways to be mindful in love.
- Mindfulness can help you orient the often difficult landscape of a romantic relationship.
- With mindfulness, you can change the unconscious habits that can harm your relationships.
- Find 9 ways to be mindful in love in the article below.
Mindfulness, the act of being aware and attentive to the moment without passing judgment, is important for all types of relationships. This includes romantic relationships. In fact, I think that romantic relationships are where becoming mindful can become a sort of breakthrough for the relationship. Instead of a short-lived flame of passion, mindfulness can help create something long-lasting, and truly deep.
Mindfulness can help you avoid problems in romantic relationships before they even start. It will help improve communication between you and your partner so that disagreements are handled with respect and love instead of anger, sadness, and frustration.
It may be difficult at first to bring mindfulness into your romantic relationship if you’re used to letting stress take control or putting up walls because you’re afraid of getting hurt.
However, it’s well worth the effort because it will leave both of you feeling more fulfilled and connected.
But, how does one start? It is easier than you might think! You are going to have to change how you relate to your partner, but it will be an easy (and even fun) process!
So, how about getting right into it? Here’s how you can become mindful in love:
Express gratitude openly.
Expressing gratitude is so simple, yet we tend to forget the importance of genuine gratitude once the butterflies are gone and the relationship becomes habitual.
Truth is, even something simple like saying “thank you” when your partner does something for you (or simply smiles at you) can make them feel appreciated and good about themselves. As your partner sees that his or her actions are indeed valued, they will want to be at their best in their relationship. In that sense, a simple act of gratitude can create a beautiful cycle.
Make it a point to express your gratitude in whatever form you like best (words, cards, gifts). It will let your partner know that they are appreciated and loved.
In addition to this, remember to genuinely feel the gratitude! It might be easier said than done at first, but with practice it will get easier and become second nature.
Stay mindful during conflicts.
One of the most important things to remember when in a romantic relationship is that it’s okay to disagree. Disagreements and conflicts are inevitable, and they’re not signs of failure. However, what you do with these disagreements and conflicts can make all the difference between maintaining or ending your romantic relationship.
In my opinion, the easiest way of staying mindful during conflict is by practicing empathy. Empathy is the ability to imagine what it’s like to be in another person’s shoes, which means you can see your partner’s point of view.
So, next time you and your partner disagree, take a step back from the argument and try to look at it from their perspective.
At first, this might be difficult – you are human after all. And, it can be hard dealing with your own emotions during an argument, let alone trying to understand someone else’s viewpoints at the same time.
It takes some time and effort, but once you master empathy, you will be able to handle conflict that much better.
The relationship you have with yourself is as important as the relationships you have with other people. If you are going into a romantic relationship hoping that the other person will “fix” you and make you feel better, you are set for disappointment.
Instead, make it a habit to always know yourself, your motivations, and your feelings.
Let go of the notion that a perfect romantic relationship will be something that will finally make you feel whole. If you go into a relationship feeling unwhole, you are bound to blame your partner for your feelings of lack. This will lead to a lot of unnecessary conflict and disappointment.
Try to prioritize the relationship you have with yourself. This does not mean that you have to be selfish. On the contrary, by knowing who you are and truly accepting yourself, you will make for a much better romantic partner.
Date, date, date!
So many couples stop dating after a few years together. This is a big mistake!
Look, I understand that people get tired and dating might not seem that important after a while. But guess what, if you want to have a truly mindful and deep relationship, dating is a must.
If you do it right, dating will take the two of you out of your comfort zones and deepen the relationship. After all, a good relationship is about shared experiences. And, the more diverse the experiences, the deeper the relationship.
The more you shake things up the better. If you are used to candlelight dinners, try heading outdoors for a rugged hike. If you are used to doing high-energy activities together, try slowing down over a good meal and a glass of wine at a good restaurant. Make it a habit of getting out of your comfort zones as a couple and you will see your relationship flourish!
I am not trying to be Debbie Downer, but the passion in your relationship will eventually start to fade. Does this mean that the relationship is heading towards an inevitable demise? No!
John Gottman, one of the most renowned marital satisfaction experts in the world, has published research finding that a strong friendship is directly linked to greater satisfaction in a relationship.
Looks like good friends can be good lovers after all!
Whenever you are with your partner, make a conscious effort to stay present. Try to stay anchored in the present moment and do not think about the various stressors currently in your life.
Staying present will help you see the soul of your partner. Your full presence will also make solving conflicts much easier, and you will always feel a strong spiritual connection to your other half. Even if you do not currently see eye to eye on something.
What if your partner is not a spiritual person? Is it still worth it to become present during your interactions? Absolutely! Even if they are not spiritual, they will feel your presence in their gut. And they will appreciate it!
If you are anything like me, meditating with another person takes a lot of work and effort at first. I have always felt that meditation is something very intimate. Something that I only do when I want to be alone with my soul and spirit.
That said, after looking into the many scientific benefits of meditating with a romantic partner, I just had to try it. And, what can I say, the science was right! Meditating with a romantic partner creates a unique bond between you two. A bond that is impossible to describe with words.
I understand that meditating with someone else can feel scary at first, but I still suggest you try it. It WILL improve your relationship! And, with so many meditation techniques out there, you are bound to find something that is comfortable for both of you.
Make love at least once a week.
A mindful relationship is about spiritual connection above all. That said, a spiritual connection can be hard to find if you have no physical connection with your partner.
I am not saying that you always need to be all over each other. Life often gets in the way, and that is fully understandable. That said, try to make a conscious effort to make love at least once a week. If you do not have the time, then make the time!
Intimacy is one of the most important things in a relationship, and this includes emotional intimacy as well as physical intimacy.
Have deep, genuine conversations.
Talking is one of the most important aspects of a good relationship. And, when I mean talking, I do not mean something like discussing sports, the weather, or what to eat for dinner.
Instead, take the time to talk about your biggest dreams, your fears, your goals in life, and how you truly feel in your day-to-day life. Opening up can be difficult, especially if you are not used to it. But, having a real conversation with your partner WILL be great for your relationship.
Mindfulness is a powerful tool that can help us create more fulfilling and healthy relationships. By bringing more mindfulness into our love lives, we can learn to connect with our partners in a deeper way and experience more happiness and satisfaction in our relationships.
If you’re looking for ways to improve your relationship, try some of the tips from this post. And if you want even more guidance on how to live mindfully in all areas of your life, feel free to check out my other posts on this subject.
Goodbye for now, and good luck on your spiritual journey!